Life & death are in the tongue

Colossians 4:6 Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.

When I dont know how to answer, I should stay quiet & pray more, to get heavenly council from my Lord. Yet what I come to is this, everything I say must be in accords with Gods grace, leaving a bridge to come to God through Jesus and seasoned with the salt of His word, truths, and love. If I cant do that, I should just remain silent until I can. Often heard this growing up, "If you cant say something nice, dont say anything at all." This might be a silent world if this was practiced, but I dont believe this is our goal or standard, just get by in life. We must be proactive in speaking life, grace, truth in love. The world may be silent but silently going to hell without Jesus! As this is my aim, I will yes, inevitably say something way off but I will hit my target moreso than not. There is power in the tongue, but its in using the words of God and not ours. We can impart life or death by obeying this or choosing not to. I want to reflect my Father who is in heaven and not my old man who has been buried in Christ.